8/17/13

New Address

As mentioned, my blog has moved. Certainly an upgrade.

What this means for you is just that you will now need to go to www.thebennett4.com to read my blog. Save it as a favorite, add it to your RSS feed, set it as your homepage (nanny and grandpa) but in the meantime, you can always come here and click on this link to get there. LINK

Please come visit me in my new space!


8/16/13

Up in The Air

I wrote this post last night on my flight back from Austin. Have a great weekend.

I'm still amazed that in flight wi-fi is no big deal now. Really, I'm just amazed that our kids will not even understand how or why we ever did anything for hours at a time, including flying, without access to the internet. I say that because I am posting this on my flight home from Austin. I have a lot to fill you in on, so here goes, no order, just thoughts.

My blog is about to get a major update. Get ready to be blown away by a sophisticated new look and feel. I've been needing to do this for a while- the blogger platform is okay- but not what someone who works day in and day out in branding, digital strategy and evolving technology, should be working on. Also, it's always made me sad that the URL is "thebennett3". Poor Holden. So, I'll have a new address too, that is more relevant to our current family status, which I will share with you all.

The trip to Austin was not what I expected. I expected to really miss it and feel sad, and I didn't. Don't get me wrong, I miss the people...but it's pretty hard to miss the heat and crunchy brown grass. I think August and September are the WORST months of the year in Austin, so I'm sure that's a big part of it.

Also, I didn't plan on being sick. I was SO sick. I'm only starting to feel better today. Again, it was still so fun to see Nikki, Courtney and Carrie (and B and Zach), but I guess I had pictured us doing a bit more...poor Courtney, she really got me at the worst of it. I basically just laid on their couch for like 48 hours and alternated between Advil gel caps and Skinny Cow ice cream sandwiches.

I told my clients about my move. Such a relief- I hated not saying anything and also- they were so great about it. I was sitting in a room with about 8 clients, including the CMO and I just came out with it. I said "Okay, so I have some news..." and I paused. They all tilted their heads and paused with faces like "WHAT." So then I just explained that I had moved and that I had been working remotely and it seemed to be working for me, and if it was working for them, I would keep on with that for the time being. The CMO quickly said "Works for me..." and everyone nodded and was like "AGH. We thought you were going to say you were quitting." I learned that technique from Steel Magnolias (best movie ever, by the way) when Weeza is explaining that her nephew broke the news to his parents that he was gay by first saying:

"Momma. Daddy. I have something to tell you. I've got cancer and I've got six months to live..." when they got all sad, he quickly said "I'm only kidding. I'm just gay."

Ha. I owe many of my best moves to Shirley Maclaine. "THIS IS FOOTBALL. People want to talk about touchdowns and injuries. They don't give a damn about that grape shit." So many good quotes.

I almost just barfed on this flight. Like really. This is hands down the most turbulent flight I've ever been on. I was doubled over, with my Corona pressed against my neck like a regular cold compress, praying to the good God above that this would not be the way it all went down. There are many ways to die and I think one of the least dignified is on a plane, listening to bad jokes from the guy two seats over, while the girl just to the right of me watches Epic while eating the worst smelling Chinese food I've ever smelled. I think I dodged the bullet, it's been smooth sailing for about 20 minutes now.

I'm so ready to get home. This is the longest I've been away from Davis and Holden and I can literally feel their soft cheeks and smell their sweet skin. I had time to swing by the Co-Op today so I brought Davis a little UT football uniform, complete with a white jersey (he has orange), football pants, and a helmet. I think he will love it, especially after playing football with Charlie last weekend. I think that as cliche as it is, football is going to be his sport. The kid loves to tackle. I also got Holden a little UT cheerleader uniform. I am going to DIE when she puts it on. And so help me, I will get a picture of her in it with a little white bow in her hair if it kills me. (A far more dignified way to go, right?)

Did I tell you I painted Davis' room and the kitchen? In like 5 hours, no tape, no plastic floor cover, no mistakes? Well I'm telling you again. If I don't land a job that I love in Minne, I might just start my own painting biz. I actually thought that to myself while painting. Sometimes I get a little carried away. Anyway- it looks great and makes a huge difference so now I am completely inspired to paint Holden's room and our bedroom. And I know what you are thinking- it's a rental house- but environment is everything. And it only took 4 hours. And, I think the paint they chose for the bedrooms is such a shame- I almost feel like I owe it to the house. It's such a good house and who paints walls buttercream anyway?

I had breakfast with Ahmad and Stacey yesterday. It was so fun to catch up and Ahmad's story was so good, I wish I could share it. But too much background is required and also it's not my story to tell. If I'm going to divulge secrets here, I suppose I must limit it to my own.

Ahmad and I had some real talk, as always. Some good thoughts to ponder. Like: how can one find the balance between being a person that never stops learning, moving growing (moss doesn't grow on a rolling stone) while also being a person that is thankful and can truly content with what they have? Is it possible to be taking advantage of this life to the full extent while also being content? We didn't come up with the answer- but we probably will eventually. We also talked a ton about using your gifts to give to the world. And how to really just go for it- feel so joyful, so carefree, so ready for whatever God and the universe has for you. Things we're both always trying to do and be. I love that guy. And Stacey too. She just had to leave early for a work meeting. I miss working out with them.

The sunset right now is so beautiful, I wish I could take a picture. It's like the hot pink you would find in a vaurnet shirt from the 80s, with sherbet underneath and then an amazing lilac gray beneath it. God is just an artist.

Okay, that's all I have. Hope you had a great week.

8/14/13

Hand Foot Mouth

Guess who has it? Davis, and...yours truly. Guess that's why my glands have been so swollen and my mouth looks like WWIII. What a bummer to be here in Austin, for work and for play, and to be feeling so poorly. Blech.

8/13/13

Grin and Bear It

Pictures from the weekend...

So Davis' favorite thing about the zoo was the splash pad. We didn't know there would be a splash pad, so he had to strip down and go in his new superhero skivvies...which was absolutely no problem for Davis. If he could wear just his underpants all the time- he would. Especially since I got him a pack of Marvel superheroes undies last week at Target.


I love the joy on his face in this picture. I feel like pictures like this capture the BEST of childhood.



Holden was not as bold.
Keep in mind it was probably 75 degrees outside.


My favorite thing at the zoo was this crazy bear that basically just swam right up to the window and put on a show. I am such a dork at the zoo- I cannot get over things like this. It was amazing.



Holden Eloise liked the bear, but LOVED watching the penguins dive into the water and swim around right in front of her.





Everyone was tired after our trip to the Minnesota zoo. Her hair is getting so reddish. It's so cute.


And also 75% of the time, her hair is sort of a shaggy mess and she looks like a hobo. But, we're growing it out so we can do a cute lob (long bob) AND she won't wear any clips. Separately, girlfriend is a total swinger. She loves it.


This is a picture of Saturday night at Krissy and Patrick's. So awesome to play in such a green backyard in 75 degree weather. Summer here is amazing.

Okay, back to work! Last night, Carrie and I dined at one of our favorite spots in Austin, Pluckers. Don't judge. It takes a real woman to conduct a business meeting at a wing spot. Amazing people watching on a Monday night at Pluckers- those people are the regulars. So much fun to spend time with Carrie and Zach, and hug Porter and Mary Mae. Ugh, I wish I could take them back in my suitcase. But Carrie and I are off and running with our project and will probably have a reveal in a few months.

Oh, and it's important to mention that we totally stalked Jan last night. And she drives a YELLOW Ford Escape, which I think says a lot. Also, she has lots of what Carrie refers to as "jick jack" visible across the top of the windows. Pillows, teddy bears, oh my.

8/11/13

Hello Again...

I flew back to Austin today for a few days of meetings with clients this week...

It felt both typical and boring to be driving around town and also weird. The jury is still out on whether it is a good idea to be back so soon, but I am excited to have a few evenings with friends nonetheless. My first stop was Nikki's. Well honestly, my first stop was Sonic...to get a diet coke with a splash of vanilla. It didn't disappoint.

I started to tear up on my way to Nikki's- I guess just because I was excited to see her, because I didn't really feel sad. Just overwhelmed with a feeling, I suppose. We talked and caught up with Tony and then headed to Uchi for dinner. So good and of course, so much fun to talk the whole way through.

Here is what is not fun...and this is gross but I have about 20 raised sores on my tongue right now. And they are tiny, but they hurt like you cannot even believe. I don't know if it's secret stress or the Palomas we drank at Krissy and Patrick's house Saturday night. Or both. (Secret stress: stress that hasn't surfaced yet, or that you are unable to reasonably articulate or define from whence it came...)

We had so much fun this weekend- I'll recap that later, but just thought I would say hello- since I haven't posted since Wednesday. This will be a quick and busy week, but I will try to keep you up to date.

Things to note: it's hot as all get out here. Really. And my Chevy Cruze rental has black leather seats. Get serious. Also, I have mixed feelings about being back in the office tomorrow. Again, excited to see friends, but feeling the need to move on.

And I am having breakfast with Ahmad and Stacey this week and I cannot wait because Ahmad has a story for us that he has been waiting to tell in person. DYING to know what it is.

Also, my left gland is sore to the touch...the one by my tonsil.
What the heck? I'm falling apart.

TTYL BLOG.

8/7/13

What I Love Wednesday

1) That I have a happy hour date with Regina today. She is a realtor, and also, the sister of the CEO and owner of Great Clips, and is about, I don't know, 65-70 years old? She is a total stitch. Super direct and just 100% midwestern and I loved hanging out with her when we were looking for places to live. Honestly, Bennett's boss kept checking in on us (mainly me- ha) that weekend in March when we were here looking and deciding...and I told Bennett to tell him that Regina is the one that sold me.

2) That we are going to a BBQ with a few couples at Krissy's house this weekend and that I was also invited to a trunk show party with a bunch of girls in a few weeks. I told Bennett "Well hell. I'm just going to have to buy whatever I like. I will pay my way into these friendships." HA.

3) The weather here. It's beautiful. It feels like fall feels in Texas- you know- November/December weather? There is a breeze in the air and everything is alive.

4) Davis and Holden's school. Seriously- I feel so good taking them there every day. Such a blessing.

5) That I am going to Austin on Sunday for work next week. My clients will be in all week so we'll do dinner one night, but other than that, I'm going to stay with Nikki, Courtney and Carrie, and I'm super excited.

6) Learning about people. Last night our landlord came over to fix a few things around the house. He is about our age and he is so interesting. He owns about 7 houses, runs a 100+ person operations team at a major company in town, is a property manager for a bunch of properties in Minnesota AND Iowa, AND he is working on his MBA. I had like one million questions I wanted to ask. At one point, I looked at Bennett and said "Do you realize how hard this is for me? I know I have to stop, but I have like 20 more questions I feel I need to ask..." He goes "I know, Sam."

7) That for some reason, even though I forwarded my mail, a bunch of it just keeps getting sent to Jan. She is sooooo annoyed, and I sort of love it. I think I'll let it ride another week or two.

8) Caribou Coffee. It's the local coffee shop around the midwest. I know, I know. I was supposed to get a coffee machine, but I have purchase anxiety. There are so many out there and I don't know which one to get and I would hate to buy one and then just keep going to Caribou. Also, I sort of love going to Caribou. To see people, to answer the daily trivia question, to enjoy the coffee.

9) That my sister told me about a dream she had after watching a Pedro Almodovar movie that totally freaked her out. It included Davis being an inanimate little plastic sailor man from Maine...and Holden was a piece of oatmeal. And she was dead serious and quite concerned because she said I had Holden swirled in with all the other oatmeal. HA! I think her dinner was laced with crack.

10) That Kirsten and I talked yesterday and laughed our brains out about Davis' poopisode at the airport and how Andy accidentally peed on a 6 week old the other day at the pool...and mostly that we are planning a BALLS OUT road trip following her nursing school graduation in August 2014. I seriously CANNOT WAIT.

Happy Wednesday!

8/6/13

Uniforms?

I spoke with the director at the kids' school yesterday and she let me know that Davis' shift into Pre-K will begin on September 3rd. And that once the kids are in Pre-K, they wear uniforms. WHAT? I don't know why this is such a big deal to me, but it feels really weird. The shopper in me got really excited and went right ahead and ordered a slew of uniform choices, but the mom in me, felt really sad that Davis is a big enough kid to be wearing UNIFORMS.

I just didn't really picture him wearing uniforms, ever, let alone when he is four. But I am excited that he is moving into Pre-K. I think it will be good for him because it's even more structured and focused on learning and he has already shown so much growth since being at this new school, I can only imagine he will have even more progress in this next setting.

Thank goodness I asked if I could order regular pants from like Gap or Old Navy because NERD ALERT- the uniform pants are super dorky with an elastic waist band and no pockets. So anyway, I ordered a bunch of navy and khaki rip-stop cargo pants for him, a few pairs of navy and khaki shorts, and then several of the polo shirts from the uniform choices. How much is Davis going to hate wearing a BUTTON SHIRT every day to school?

I will say this- this school is breaking him of his bad eating habits. Yesterday he said he ate a whole burger for lunch. I know that doesn't sound like a big deal- but a month ago- he never would have tried it. And now that his only pants options are navy, khaki and denim, he will have to wear jeans instead of track pants and polos instead of t's. YES!

So since he will be so preppy during the week, I guess I will indulge him and let him wear track pants over the weekend. I said I would never buy another pair of them, but in this instance, I think I will.

A few other things that I want to remember, no rhyme or reason:
Davis calls fire alarms "fire walarms" and he thinks fire comes out of them. It's about the only thing he's ever been the slightest bit afraid of.

Davis is constantly talking about how big he is getting and the other night as we were lying in bed, about to go to sleep he said, very sincerely "Mom. I'm gonna ask you something. When I get bigger, can I ride a motorcycle? By myself? Because there is one seat...for one boy."

He also says "omy" instead of "only"

He has started to apologize a lot- without prompting. It's awesome. He's growing up and sensing other people's feelings naturally, vs. by force.

He also looks at Holden a lot and will say things like "Holden looks so pretty..." and he is so protective of her. Last night we found a dead mouse in the yard and we put a bucket over it. The second Holden would even walk that direction, he would panic and say "Can you please go get my baby sister???"

Holden has gone from calling milk "mulk" to now calling it "mup" - it's amazing. I now refer to it as mup.

Holden says "yeah" a lot as a response. It's pretty cute coming from her.

She LOVES to read and will hand you book after book until you tell her you have to take a break for a minute.

She still loves to wear Davis' costumes. I think I need to get some more costumes for these kids- they love to pretend, which I also love.


She has been DROOLING like a faucet with her teeth coming in- I had to change her shirt three times yesterday.

That's all I got for now!





8/5/13

Uptown Art Fair

Just some pics to share today! More later...


This picture kills me. She looks like a little girl.
Not a baby...sob sob sob.


A $6.00 "shaved ice" that was actually a crappy crunchy sno cone with a teensy bit of flavor. I don't think he minded nearly as much as I did. Ha.




Girlfriend loves a good dip. She will dip the tiniest piece of something about 10 times before actually eating it. She also tries to eat ketchup with a fork.


It was a very fun day. We all went to bed early...except for little tiny who has FOUR molar coming in at once. She is certainly the most miserable I have ever seen her. Poor thing.

8/4/13

Date Night in Minne

This has been a very much-needed, FUN, weekend. Last week was a little rough for me, just sort of bored and homesick, and I feel so much better after our fun-filled weekend. I got back from Atlanta on Friday afternoon, took care of a few things at home, and then picked the kids up early from school.

Next we went over to Nate and Sarah's house for dinner- Nate is on Davis' team and they have been good pals since Nate joined the team about a year ago. Anyway, the most interesting thing is that they have two kids, Brooks and Bennett, and Brooks is Davis' age, while Bennett is Holden's age...and they go to the same school. So when I told Davis at pick up that we were going to his friend Brooks' house, he looked at me with a huge smile and said "it's like a play date!!"

I didn't know how fun it would be, but we had the best time. We talked and laughed and Brooks and Davis played together until about 10. It was really nice. I left feeling super optimistic.

Saturday morning we went out for breakfast and then came home and did things around the house. After Holden napped, we all got dressed to go to the water park because it was finally sunny and HOT. We were all in our swimsuits, horsing around on our bed, when Davis bounced off the side and smacked his head into the corner of our glass side table. I panicked immediately. I knew it wasn't good. He was screaming and I reached for his head and my hand was covered in blood. I am NOT good in an emergency. I either freeze or panic...which is one reason why I'm glad I'm married to cool-as-a-cucumber, Bennett.

We jumped in the car and went to the urgent clinic. The cut wasn't huge, but we didn't want to dig in and see how deep it was. The bleeding wasn't significant, but there was blood. The whole way there, Davis kept saying "I don't want to go to the doctor. I want to go to the WATER PARK..." so we sort of knew he was somewhat okay.

Anyway- long story short- the doctor took one look and said he was totally fine. No worries. So yeah, that wasn't fun, but it ended up not being a major deal. THANK GOODNESS.

Last night, we went out for a date at a restaurant that Krissy recommended to me, Cafe Lurcat. It was so cute and we had the best time. We had raw oysters and an apple salad for appetizers, I had ahi tuna for dinner, Bennett had their raved about Chilean sea bass and he said it was hands-down the best fish he had ever put in his mouth. We had asparagus and Minnesota sweet corn for sides. The corn was definitely worth writing home about. So good.

And then for dinner we shared these little mini sugar/cinnamon donuts. We took half of them home for Holden and Davis and they were very pleased to have them for breakfast this morning.

It was just really nice to have a night out together, and to see a new part of the city, and enjoy a great restaurant.



The restaurant was in a very unexpected area- at least for me. We walked down this little alley lined with great old stone buildings and it was at the very end, on the corner, next to a gorgeous green park.


On the way there, we noticed this sign "Dance Here" and we peeked our heads in to see what was up. It's a dance studio. Tango lessons are on Friday nights. If tennis doesn't work out- this could be our new hobby. HOT TAMALE!


And I just want to take pictures of flowers everywhere I go. The colors are so beautiful- they don't even seem real...but they are. I love the purples and the bright green.


And then today we went to the Uptown Art Fair. But I'll share more on that tomorrow. Hope you had a great weekend too.

7/31/13

My favorite time of day

is a tie between the early mornings when Davis comes and quietly climbs in our bed to snuggle between Bennett and I...and the evenings when Holden and I rock in her room. Her hair is usually wet, she smells like baby soft lotion, and her skin is this flawless ivory. I could eat her up. I look at her every night and every night I think "She is the sweetest thing I have ever seen..."

And we do this routine. She always wants me to reach over and grab her Minnie Mouse doll. She gives her a kiss, and a hug, and then lately she has given Minnie her binky. I use Minnie's hand to hold it in her mouth and I make the sucking noise, and Holden thinks it is so great. Until she wants it back. Then she rubs her belly to say "pease" and reaches to get it back, and then she lays her head on my chest and just looks up at me with her big blue eyes. And I know how lucky I am.

In those moments, I always know how lucky I am.

6 Month Check-In

It just occurred to me this morning that it's almost exactly six months through the year. Which gives me major anxiety considering how quickly time is flying. I was thinking about that saying "The days are long, but the years are so fast..." whoever said that was brilliant. And also a mom. Of toddlers.

But anyway, that is not what I was thinking of. I was thinking mainly that it's the perfect halfway point to check in on my 2013 New Year's Resolutions. I love resolutions. So here is my list from December 2012, with a little commentary in red on where I stand with them.

Get fit. Like really fit. (Not there yet, but I haven't given up. One of my absolute favorite things about working from home is the ability to go to the Y in the mornings during what would normally be my commute. It is an awesome way to start the day...and certainly is the key to getting fit, like really fit.)

Drop 15-20 pounds. (Same. Not there yet, but haven't given up.)

Play the guitar again/more. (Okay, so when I got really good at the guitar, I was in college at Baylor and I was super lovesick and lonely for Bennett, who was going to school in Vermont. He always asks me why I don't play more and my reason over the last couple years has been "I don't have time..." and that's been true. I also didn't really have a desire to get back into it. But I do now. Davis is SO into music and I think he will freak out when I play for him...even if I am incredibly rusty and have no callouses on my fingers...and I certainly have more time right now.)

Plug into something- find a group or cause I'm passionate about- commit to it and make a difference. (Yes, going to do this here. Need to figure out what that is. I was reading about foster homes last night and it made me feel incredibly sad and I'm not sure we are ready to foster, but if there is something I could do for kids, of pregnant young moms in particular, I really would like to do it. I need to look up some opportunities- I'm going to do that today.)

Stress less. (I'm actually doing brilliantly at this. Seriously. I'm like so stress-free you wouldn't even believe it. Some people are laughing at this because I am not an incredibly stressed person in general, but I still thought at the end of last year that maybe I should chill out a bit. We all should. So anyway- high five to me. Kicking ass on this one.)

Travel more. (Hello- just went to Wisconsin. Seriously though- this is on the agenda for SURE this year...so I'm excited about that. I want to go to Canada and I would like to go to Africa.)

Do something amazing. Shockingly good. Maybe at work. Maybe with aforementioned cause. (Holy shit- I better get on this...time is waning.)

Begin my 2nd authorial endeavor. (Start 2nd book).  
(Err, oops, this one too. I have so many ideas- I just don't even know where to begin...)

Be bold. Speak truth. Put myself out there. Be a leader.
(I think I'm doing well on this one. I don't have tangible examples- but it's more of a presence...)

Know God more.
(I talk to God a lot these days. It's a casual conversation, and I certainly should be reading the bible more and/or a devotional or something, but our talks are good, and mostly I'm trying to listen. I say things like "God, please lay on my heart what it is that I should be doing next. Please make it incredibly clear..." and then sometimes, like last week I also say things like "Dear God, please don't let me be pregnant. If I can just NOT be pregnant, I will never forget my birth control again...true story. And don't worry, I'm not pregnant!!!)

Laugh more. (For sure.)

Hurry less. (Boom, done.)

Move! (Holy cow, I had no idea what I was getting into when I put this one on the docket. But here I am in Minneapolis. And isn't that what's fun about life? Surprises? Sometimes I love picturing God giggling at things that I think are certainly going to happen, or not happen. I guarantee I crack him up.)

Love Bennett, Holden and Davis with all of my heart. (YES! And having so much time with them here is really great. Already so thankful for that)

Be more compassionate. (I need to work on this still, I think...but it's not something I have forgotten.)

So what do you think? I think I'm batting like 50% so far...which isn't bad. But I need to turn it up for the rest of the year. 

Lets see, what else do I have to tell you, blog? I am going to Atlanta again tomorrow, working, doing a client dinner, and then meeting Courtney's little brother Blake and his girlfriend, Katie, out for drinks after. I'm coming back Friday, and then Saturday I got a sitter and I made reservations at this restaurant called Cafe Lurcat that Krissy recommended. I'm excited to be out with Bennett, trying something new. I hope it's sunny this weekend so we can user our season passes to the little water park too. 

OOH, and also the Rennaisance fair is coming up. Bennett thinks it's a total creeper fest- and I do too- but I still want to go. We would always go when I was little and every year I would get one of those flower/branch wreaths with the long ribbons down the back. And I would pretend those ribbons were my incredibly long and flowy hair. When I think about it, I realize that I probably spent 50% of my young life pretending my hair was long...and that I had a retainer. I was so cool.

Happy Wednesday. How are your resolutions coming?

Oh and thanks for the sweet note on my last post, Sommer! Miss you. 

7/30/13

Confidence.

The idea of confidence has been on my mind a lot lately...for two reasons, really. The first is that while we were driving to Hudson Wisconsin the other day, Bennett and I were talking about Davis and Holden and what they will be like and what will make them happy and how important it is to figure that out rather than project things on them...

And the second is that I recently reconnected with one of my best friends from my youth, and the topic of confidence came up again...and whether or not I am as confident as I come across...and it certainly caused me to think about my own confidence, where it came from, etc.

When talking to Bennett, I said something like "I mean, I have always believed I could do or be anything I wanted to be. Like really, anything. Always. I know that comes from my mom, but I don't remember the articulation of it. I think it was less of what she said, and more of what she did." For example, in kindergarten, when I wanted to be 'Sam' she got on board. I'm 32 and still Sam. When I told everyone I wanted to be a squirrel when I grew up, she didn't correct me or make fun. When I wanted to be a mechanic, she gave me her dish washing gloves and let me tinker in the garage for hours. When I was in the 6th grade, and I was CERTAIN I was as good as Michael Jordan when it came to basketball, she just encouraged me, saying I would certainly be so good.

Not to say I don't have insecurities, I'm human. Of course I do, but man, what a gift my mom has given me, and my sister too. Watching them both, so smart, so capable, so focused on going after the things they love...has made a huge difference in who I am.

Bennett and I also talked about Holden, and how tough it is to be a girl, and have so much focus on being pretty. That's also something we NEVER talked about. I didn't realize it until I said that aloud to Bennett. My mom never suggested we put effort into being pretty...that we try hard to be pretty. I mean, it didn't even occur to me until college that it was unusual to show up EVERYWHERE with soaking wet hair and sans makeup. I sort of felt like that was what everyone did. Now, she did tell us we looked cute and things...and we weren't total slobs. We dressed cute and wanted to look nice and feel comfortable, but but being pretty was never our focus.

I hope I can do the same for Holden. I hope I can encourage her and show her that some of the most beautiful people, the most sought after people, are simply the most interesting people. The people with confidence, with some sort of zhuz. I hope I can live a life that shows her that too.

And I hope Davis is attracted to people that are interesting, challenging, inspiring. Not pretty, but beautiful. Inside and out. As cliche as that sounds.

All of these thoughts made me think about this:


And that's what I'm trying to do. Not just for them though...but because I don't get to do this again and I want to make sure I use my time working at being who I want to be. Which made me think of this:


I believe it, believe it with all my heart. And I think if you're really living, it should feel like you are constantly doing the things that God placed in your heart when he made you YOU.

And I don't know if this makes sense to anyone else, but it does to me. It gives me a happy heart, as Davis would say. 


7/29/13

Sweet Holden Eloise

was home with a low grade fever today...it was nice to spend time alone with her. she is so sweet when she is sick, she really tries to smile and be happy, no matter how horrible she feels.

Now davis, he is a bit different when he is sick. he really just needs everyone to understand exactly how horrible he feels...all. day. long. he reminds me of me in that sense. ha.

Speaking of davis, we had so much fun tonight. we played catch, we ate some pizza, we cleaned off the back porch and then we had fun talking about Qubert, for about an hour. Who is Qubert? A fly that was flying around while Davis was in the bath. I started saying things like "I think that fly is just waiting for you to get out of the bath so he can take one..." Davis was so intrigued, so of course I created a whole life for Qubert and the night ended with us laying out pajamas for him (Q) to borrow, and talking through what we would serve him for breakfast. Pizza, of course.

Not much to say today other than that- it was kind of boring...just called in sick to work, ran some errands, took a nap, and then went to the YMCA.

back in the saddle tomorrow, i hope.
peace out.


7/28/13

Three Strikes, You're Out

And I'm not talking about t-ball here, folks. We have all but decided that it will be better for the Bennett 4 if we don't EVER go back to t-ball. I'm talking about some new rules at our house. We have talked a lot about it lately and have realized that Davis is tough because he's not really afraid of anything. Yelling doesn't work (nor is it pleasant or a good habit), we don't spank, taking toys away is not a big deal to him, and threats are also not the best practice, nor does he seem to be bothered by them at all.

The one thing that really gets his goat is when he can't play with us. So, Friday, for example, he was just being such a pill so Bennett removed him from the playroom and he cried and screamed while watching through the windowed doors while the three of us played without him. So our new thing is "3 strikes, you're out..." three incidents, in a short period of time, and he's simply removed from the situation. It. Kills. Him. VICTORY.

Also, 3 strikes you're well, IN, at bedtime. Meaning, if he gets out of bed three times- his door is locked. We had this problem of constantly wanting to give him another chance- and he could read that- so we're trying to be super tough and stick to the three chances. He totally gets it. In fact, just five minutes ago he came out of his room and I said "Davis- I'm going to lock your door..." and he said "No, that's just strike one, mom." :-/

So that's that, and/but we had a great weekend even though it sounds like Guantanamo around here. Saturday was rainy so we went out for brunch and then played at the house. Saturday night I took Davis to see Turbo- which is really cute- and then today we decided to take a day trip to Hudson, Wisconsin. That's right- we're cheeseheads now. It's official. Also, we are going to make a Minnesota bucket list and try to accomplish all of it before we head back to the ATX.

Anyway, it was gorgeous and lovely outside and we just played at the park by the St. Croix river, which I constantly referred to as the "Hudson River" all day like a total geographic know-it-all...and then we came home and played Fireman Sam. I basically had to sing the theme song over and over for a good 45 minutes, with the only breaks being used to shout "FIREMAN SAM! THERE'S a FIRE IN THE KITCHEN!!!"

Davis is in Dallas tonight through Tuesday- and he gets to see B since they're going to the same conference. I'm excited for him. He just called me and said "Oh man, it feels good to be back. And I don't even like Dallas." :-)

Anyway, here are some stills from the weekend. Stills...doesn't that make me sound so sophisticated?

Probably because Davis and I have been speaking to each other for the last hour (outside of playing Fireman Sam) with amazing british accents...all while wearing his dad's giant sombrero.


Play date at the indoor playground. Three stories tall and sort of like a crazy jungle/tree maze.



umm. i'm not really sure about climbing in there with you.


really, i won't do anything that warrants a strike. i promise.


i love this photo. it says just about everything about her. a little bit pink striped pajamas pants, a little bit home depot apron, and a lot spiderman. 


surveying all she will conquer...



the hudson st. croix river. and holden.


 the world is your oyster, little one. jump in.


7/27/13

55

You might think 55 means something like the amount of miles we biked today, or the cost of a great sweater I got at a hot sale, or even the number of boxes it took to pack up our home. Because I'm sure you were NOT thinking that 55 might be the temperature here today. That would be crazy.

Well welcome to crazy town. I am writing this, wearing shorts, a long sleeved shirt, with a sweater over the top. And I was chilly most of the day. Everyone here cannot figure out what is going on- I mean- it was 98 and humid last week...but still, I'm like "Oh wow. Here we go..."

It beats 105. But I would like a FEW more weeks of summer if at all possible, Minnesota. Please and thank you.

Today I took a couple hours to myself to run some errands- I went to see if I could find some long sleeved tees and pants for Holden. Since she hasn't had to wear those since January, she has definitely grown out of those she has. I also stopped by a little vintage store called "Piccadilly Parade" or something like that, and then, of course, Anthropologie.

I actually didn't find much, but I enjoyed wandering around during this rainy, chilly day, in a new city. There is one thing I will say...even though some days I'm sad, I'm pretty proud of myself, and even surprised by myself for being here. And maybe in that way alone, it's worth it.

I did find one little pair of earrings that I thought would brighten the day...


Not sure the picture really does them justice- they look sort of grandma-y here...but just trust me gals, they are very cool in person. 

Hope you're having a great weekend. I promise to take more pictures of the beans tomorrow to post.

7/26/13

Interesting Things About Minne

I've recognized some interesting things around these parts. At least they are interesting to me...and some of them are simply curious because my expectations were different, while others, I believe are just interesting in their own right.

Minnesota is surprisingly progressive. Or at least Minneapolis is...for example:

First: It's an incredibly liberal city- it is in the top three cities for GLBT- and it's largely democratic. The people here are appalled about how Texas is handling the abortion bill. Seriously- the other day a girl came to our door to get a signature in support of pro choice and one of her comments was that without support from the people- we could "end up like Texas."

Secondly: It's incredibly progressive when it comes to innovation and technology. In fact, I think this city is ahead of Austin- which is saying a lot since Austin is supposed to be so tech-centric. Not only is education amazing here, but they offer free public online school programs for any and all kids grades K-12. That's pretty incredible.

And at the airport, there are whole lounges, cafes and bars that have an iPad at every table- for your use. Also at the airport- you can choose whether to get a paper card showing where you parked, and then pay the clerk like normal, OR you can submit your card upfront, and then just submit it again at the end electronically- for a $2 per hour discount.

Thirdly: There are so many cool vintage shops, mom and pop businesses, and amazing boutiques and restaurants. It's a very forward thinking city with great design and style. And I know that anyone that follows design knows that already, but I am still surprised.

Fourth: It's a big city, with many types of people and influences. I know this makes me sound like a sheltered white girl, but it is different to me, how when we go to parks or public places, there are occasionally kids with their hair wrapped up in turbans and lately I've seen some hacidic jewish kids, with the curls and everything. You think Austin is a big city with lots of influences, but it might be a bit more homogenous than I thought. And I also just didn't expect such a melting pot vibe in the midwest.

Fifth: People are really helpful. That is like the best way to describe them. Texas has friendly. We really do. Minnesota has helpful. It's not like "Hey y'all!" with a big grin, it's more like sincere offers to help and then you can see people's pleasure when they can tell they've given you information or done something to help you out. It's interesting seeing that difference. Texas people are way more outgoing and friendly, but less intent to help or do something (I would almost say we seem "lazier" but maybe it's because everyone is so damn hot- ha), where it seems Minnesota people are more reserved, but seriously sincere about helping each other out.

Sixth: People really are more fit here. You can see it everywhere you go. I look around me all the time and think "Geez, the people are really pretty here..." I think there is a bigger focus on health and fitness...and outdoorsyness here, and I knew that coming in...but I didn't realize how noticeable it would be. And it's at every age- like I said- my YMCA is always full of older people just cranking away on the exercise equipment.

So those are my observations thus far.

We had a great play date with Krissy, Charlie and Kate. I really like her- and hope I have a new friend. They invited us over in a few weekends for a BBQ with some of their other friends. It's so kind, I'm almost suspicious. Ha.



7/25/13

0 for 2

T-Ball Thursday. Or...

Train wreck Thursday. Or...

Tantrum Thursday. Or...

Turd head Thursday.

Take your pick.

We are 0 for 2 on T-ball. Davis has zero interest in it and I think Bennett and I each spent more time on the field tonight than Davis did. It's annoying. It's disappointing. And it's frustrating. Annoying because we are literally chasing an almost four year old all over the diamond and beyond. It's disappointing because we thought he would love this and it would be fun for everyone. And it's frustrating because it makes you feel like a bad parent when your kid is seriously the only ONE who will do nothing that is asked of him out there.

On the way home (which was halfway through the game, by the way) Bennett said "I feel like a failure as a parent. I just have zero patience for this. Did we do something wrong?"

And I tried to encourage him that some of the things that make Davis tough to parent are also the same things that will make him an awesome human being. Okay, maybe not beaking the kid next to him in the head with the brim of his helmet...those things I blame squarely on Bennett...but other things. His independence. His confidence. His self awareness.

But it can be really challenging, this parenting thing.

I remember in high school, Kirsten and I would talk about how we both wanted to have little boys that were total bruisers...little shits that were always up to something sneaky and clever. She went as far as saying she wanted a chubby little red head. Weird how things work out. Sometimes I just want to call her and say "How's that working for ya? It's pretty damn tough over here."

Here are some pictures his teachers have sent me. They send more than Holden's do- I think because he has had some tough drop-offs and they want to show me he is happy. I am obsessed with his new school by the way- makes Child's Day look like amateur hour.


I'm sure Honey will love this shirt. Gift from Bennett's boss.



Lets be honest. The kid just looks like trouble.

But there wouldn't be joy without challenge, right?

Anyway, enough about Davis. Tomorrow the three of us have a playdate with Krissy, her kids, and one of her friends and her kids. We're going to go to the park and then do a picnic lunch. I hope it's as fun as the other night was. I hope Davis doesn't shove anyone. Zoinks.

Tomorrow I'll post some pictures from Nikki's wedding, courtesy of Sweet Louise Photography. And/or you can pop over to her blog and check them out yourself, just click HERE and leave Carrie a little love.

By the way, I talked to Carrie on the phone today and it made me miss my girls so much. They're all getting together for a glass of wine tonight...what I wouldn't give...

7/23/13

Airport Inspiration

Maybe it was the saxophonist playing "Time after Time" or the giant tin Michelob Ultra I had at Chili's Too, but I found quite a bit of inspiration in the Minneapolis airport today. I had a lot of thoughts. I'm going to share some of them, though some I knew even immediately were fleeting, while others, I believe, will stick.

  • Bennett and I were talking the other day about getting a hobby we can do together. We talked through a bunch and decided that we will first try either couples tennis lessons/tennis club or cooking lessons. I'm sort of thinking tennis will be a better one- if we like it- it is something we can do all year (indoor/outdoor) and it also might be a great way to meet people if we do a club. Plus- plays well into 100 Days of Health. 
  • I also realized at the airport, and in talking with my mom this week while she was here, that we really should go on a big trip this spring, Bennett and I. I'm still thinking Africa. And today, in gate G, I decided we should certainly stay on an elephant preserve. Elephants are unreal animals- they have emotions and memories like humans. It's insane.
  • I'm not sure what I want to do next. I have a 2nd interview with a gig here in Minne this Thursday and some moments I'm really excited about it. Other moments I'm like "I'm not going back to work full-time...I will do consulting or something and then I will spend the rest of my time doing things that I am just super interested in." Like take some classes, work out, do interesting things with Davis and Holden, volunteer for something I really care about, write...
  • I'm intentionally being a bit more selfish here in Minne. In a good way. That sounds off, I'm sure...like I need an intervention. But I feel like it's very positive. I'm spending less time just DOING things and more time thinking about what I WANT to do and what would be good for me. For instance, I think sometimes, even with the most helpful husband (and Bennett really is...) it's easy as a mom (even a working mom) to do WAY more than your fair share...and it's caused stress and resentment and I just decided I'm not going to do that anymore. I'm going to be more direct and I'm going to leave more for him to handle and I'm just going to stress less about it. A few examples- I just informed Bennett that doing the laundry for a family of four is not a one person job. We're going to share that responsibility. Same for managing the budget- not just me anymore- we're both going to manage it. I'm sure you're wondering how he responded- and his face was pretty priceless for a second- but then he was a real gem about it. Said he understood and is game to help.
But it's not just in relation to Bennett. It's with Holden and Davis too. Not that they will be shorted in any way- nothing will really change for them- but a lot will change for me because I'm not going to do the guilt thing. I am going to do the best by them, which also means doing the best by me, so I can be the most joyful, supportive, and encouraging mom I can be. I don't want to be a person that realizes 20 years from now that she took on way more than she needed to, or than was even helpful for anyone. I think I will be a better mom/wife/friend for it.

I feel really happy about all of these inspirations and realizations. I am a work in progress, but every time I think, try, do something new, I feel a little bit proud of myself, like I'm really becoming the person I would like to be- the best version of myself. Hopefully I'm on to something.

I guess we'll see. 





Minnehaha Falls

We ventured out to Minnehaha Falls on Honey's last night in town, Sunday. It was so beautiful, green, fresh, and just the smell alone was enchanting. I think that is the thing I like best here- you really want to be outside a lot. There are a zillion parks, great pools, bike trails, and the weather is so great. I can see why it's both the fittest and most outdoorsy city. I hope we still feel so active and adventurous this winter. We'll see...

Happy Tuesday. Headed out on a work trip in a bit. Back tomorrow evening. P.S. Today's drop-off was awesome- both for Holden and Davis. So thankful.





I love this picture of Holden. And man, what I wouldn't give for her hair color. Lucky gal.

7/22/13

T-Ball, Junk Shops, and Blind Dates

Davis had his first t-ball game this Thursday. I was so excited to see him interact with a coach and team and I thought he would get really into it, considering he had a new "uniform" (YMCA shirt) and baseball glove. Honey, Holden, Davis and I headed to the fields and introduced him to his coach and some of his teammates. About five minutes later he walked over and said "I just want to stay by you, mom."



After some encouragement, and one glance at all the helmets, he popped a helmet on his head and was out on the field. For a moment anyway. The kids began to warm up and of course it was chaos- a team of three year olds- but for the most part, when Coach Paul said "run to the base" the kids ran to the base. Not Davis...he went and introduced himself to different people, he went and tried out all the bats, he came over and said "hi" to Honey and I about 5 times. He just wasn't into it. It was funny watching him because it's not like he was defiant, but he just didn't feel interested in what was going on, so he did his own thing. When I told Bennett this, he immediately said "Oh. Hmmm. I wonder who he got that from." Okay fine- that is so me. I hate spending time doing boring things.


And I think we picked the wrong sport- I don't blame him. You have to wait about 20 minutes to get your turn at bat- boring. Then when you're done batting just one time- you have to go stand in the field and wait for the ball- which by the way is never going to get that far because the players are as big as the bats- boring boring boring. I think we should have signed him up for a faster paced sport. We'll see how it goes this week.

Friday, my mom and I had the best day...we went to this cute little street and looked at several antique and junk shops. There was one called Hunt & Gather that we could have spent all day in. Then we had lunch at a cute little deli called Broder's where we had a great salad and Margherita pizza. I've been pretty homesick this past week, but I have to give this city some credit...lots of great things to do and see.





How cute is that chair?
It is so much happier in it's new space...at my house!

Speaking of homesick, Friday night both Bennett and I were both so down and out and wishing we were back in Austin, so we just went and had a beer at a little tavern down the street.

Then Saturday night, we went on our first blind double date.
Yes, seriously.


We went to this cute little restaurant, Cafe Maude, to meet up with Krissy and Patrick, this couple that one of my clients introduced me to. They live in Edina too, and have a little boy who is 4 and a little girl who is 18 months. Coincidence? Bennett and I joked the whole way there about code words and things we were going to do if it was completely awkward. But listen, it was actually really fun. We sat there from 7 to 11, just drinking wine, laughing and talking.

I know- can you believe it? Like we were ourselves, and they laughed a lot and they were fun too. They even invited us over for drinks after, but I wanted to end on a high and not overdo it, so we went home instead. We left sort of giddy...Bennett and I were both just so excited that we might have friends. It gave me such hope. They already invited us over again- so I think our efforts to be witty and charming were successful. Ha.

Though I did say something at one point that I was like "Oh. Oops. Maybe I should have waited on that one..." something about how I went to get a pedicure the other day and the massage was so hard core I didn't know if I was going to cry or have an orgasm. Yep, oops. Maybe I should have waited. Oh well. Just gotta be yourself.

Honey left this morning- such a bummer- but we had a great time together and she'll be back soon. Davis kept saying "You need to get your own Minneapolis" to her- which we thought was funny. He also said this in the car yesterday on the way to Minnehaha Falls...

While looking at his dirty feet: "I'm dirty. Big Davis and I are both dirty. We are sorta dirty. But Honey and Holden, they are...they are precious." I've never even heard him say "precious" before, so it was so funny and so sweet.

He has also taken to calling his dad "Big Davis" which is really funny to hear. The other day I said something about Davis taking a nap and he goes "Wait- big Davis or little Davis?"

Oh also, 100 Days of Health update: I've lost about 4-5 pounds since being here and I'm enjoying working out at the Y every day. I love the YMCA. I love how many kids events and sports teams there are. I love the classes for me, and I love that there are a lot of older people working out there- just kicking ass and taking names.

More tomorrow!



7/18/13

A Good Find.

I have recently been scoping pillows like this, on pinterest:


Love the look and texture and layers of these pillows. I wouldn't pair them with that couch, but that is neither here nor there. Anyway- pillows like this usually retail around $100+ each.

Unless you go to IKEA. Where you can find this great little number for $10. Yes, $10.


Just thought I would share this great find with you. Also a few notes on my day.

1) The girl emailed me about getting together on Saturday- so I stand corrected. We are not being stood up. I need to get my patience and optimism in check. Hope is everything.

2) Davis had a GREAT day at school yesterday- easy drop off and the happiest of faces when I picked him up. So did Holden. They were just in great moods and were so sweet and fun all night. Today, Davis had a horrible drop off. Cried and kicked and screamed and it felt horrible. But I hope he will tell me he had a great day again...

3) Today is D's first T-ball game. Can't wait to see how that goes. And Bennett gets home tonight. :-)

More later.