6/28/13
Tomorrow, tomorrow
6/24/13
Don't Be Sad.
1) I'm not moving to India or Indonesia.
2) I'm not married to a guy that doesn't love Austin as much as I do.
3) Both Bennett and I are on the same page with how important family and friends are.
4) Time will fly by.
5) I know in my heart that this is what God wants for us right now- and that is such a great thing.
6) We're already planning a trip to visit in September.
7) We're not dead- just a two hour plane trip away.
Also, other channels of distraction that I have embraced:
a) Exercising at the Y. My body is rejecting my partying ways...it's time.
b) The Edward Snowden manhunt, I can't even peel my eyes from the news.
c) Mowing the yard- at 1:00 in the afternoon...I almost passed out for goodness sakes.
d) chatting it up with the movers
3) coffee breaks
4) people magazine
So please don't be sad. Mom, Nikki, please don't be sad. This ain't no big thang. Just a quick trip. Just pretend we're summering in the midwest. That's what I'm doing. I love you guys.
God is good. And that's all! That's really all!
6/23/13
In numbers...
Posting from my phone, so I will keep this update short. Just a few notes on our "final hoorah" party last night, and the aftermath.
About 30 people came out last night to the rattle inn...
And then probably 18 made it to egos for karaoke...
50: the number of tequila shots consumed across the group
10: the amount of worlds colliding between college friends, work people, Fred people, etc.
30: the amount of dollars for a pedicab across town with Katie and Kirsten...
85: the age of the man that sang "call me maybe"
14: the approximate amount of times Courtney and I got asked off the stage for trying to sing when it wasn't our turn
9: the number of Advil I have taken today
1:59: the time when Bennett closed the place down with bob seegers "night moves"
2: the number of my friends that awkwardly caressed ahmads muscles without permission
6: how many inches the black and purple bruise on my arm is after getting fallen on while dancing
137: the number of times I said "also, does no one care about my broken elbow?"
2: the number of times I cried about moving today
36: the amount of things I have to do before the movers come in the morning
1,000,000: the amount of dollars I felt like after last night's send off
Good night.
6/20/13
Good Riddance
1) My TV remote. That sounds silly- but I am serious as a heart attack. We have this old remote (because we've been too lazy to go replace it) from Time Warner Cable and over the last month or so, it has become clear that the "select" button is in serious need of repair or replacement. Not a big deal? Yeah. Right. What can you do with a remote that doesn't result in "select"? NOTHING. So we basically have to use all the strength of one thumb, and sometimes a few fingers, to simply select something on the telly. Sometimes I push that stupid button 20 times before getting a reaction. As I was doing this one night last week, I had this thought:
"Geez. I can't wait to move just so I can get a new freaking remote."
I really thought that.
2) This guy at work that is a big know it all who thinks he is so smart and clearly believes that the more confusing he sounds, the smarter he sounds...when really he simply sounds ridiculous. He thinks he is the smartest man alive, and he is a full-on grown-up and yet cannot even understand the rules of engagement or read a room. He interrupts all the time, he NEVER listens, and he derails every conversation. I will NOT miss him. Not one bit.
3) The heat. It hasn't been bad yet- and for my fellow Texans- I am so thankful for that. I hope it is a mild summer...but if it's not (and it probably won't be) I will certainly NOT be missing the Texas heat. Blech. I think September is actually the worst because every year I feel like when September rolls around, fall should begin, and in fact, September is still about 2-3 months away from fall weather in Texas.
4) Being SOOOOOO busy. The last month or two has just really worn me out. I've been in bed by 10 the past few nights, and sometimes as early as 8. I'm looking forward to having empty space in my calendar. I know that feeling won't last long and I'll be bored, but for now, I cannot imagine missing being so BUSY.
Okay, so I can only come up with four things. Texas, Austin, my friends, family and my work are pretty great. But I will NOT miss you remote control. You, are by far, the worst. I look forward to a new chapter where I can "select" with ease.
On to the real stuff- today is my last day at work. It feels...not real. I told someone this morning that it will probably feel real in about 3-4 weeks when I'm sitting in my home office in Minneapolis. It takes me a while to process things. I have a happy hour with some friends from work today- so that will be fun. I asked them not to make it a thing. I don't like doing good-byes and stuff like that.
Last night was really fun- I picked the beans up from school early and took them to their favorite place- TARGET! I let them each pick out a toy and then they ate Pizza Hut pizza in the Target cafe. Davis loves this- so it was a real treat. He picked out a talking Spiderman mask and I picked out a little stroller for Holden's doll. She was more into the mask than the stroller.
Then Honey got there and she brought them each a present too- it was like Christmas. She got them each a Monster's University toy since D is going to see the movie with Nikki on Sunday. At school this morning, he kept telling all his friends: "On Sunday, Nikki is going to pick me up and she's going to take me to the movie peter to see Monster's Inc." He was SO proud.
Here are some pics of our fine dining experience at Target and the mid-summer Christmas.
6/19/13
Nikki Nikki Nikki
Little Holden Eloise was so tired yesterday, she went to sleep at 6:00, so she missed all of the fun. But, before she fell asleep she did say "Nikk-key" a few different times.
"You know, I want to be one of those people that actually is thankful when something DOESN'T happen the way you think it should...because you know it's all in God's plan." So I'm trying to look at it through that lens. And there is a good chance it will come up again in a month or so...but I'm not holding my breath.
6/18/13
Sad
ALIVE
Then last night I talked to my best guy friend, Scott. We used to talk almost every other day after college- he is seriously like the brother I never had- but we've both gotten busy and talk less than we used to, and less than I would like. Anyway, it was great catching up with him, and he was so encouraging about our move. He is having back surgery (outpatient) Wednesday so he won't be able to make it into town this weekend for our final hoorah- but I know he'll come see us in Minne.
We locked down move plans yesterday...we hired Apple Movers to do the packing, loading and unloading, but guess who is actually DRIVING the truck to Minneapolis? Bennett. Two things: 1) it's the only way to get stuff there in a decent amount of time and 2) he's been dying to have a road trip from the beginning, so this will definitely scratch his itch. So next week, we'll have everything packed and loaded on Wednesday...we'll have our last community group dinner and then we're staying overnight at Courtney and B's...and then Bennett will leave for Minnesota on Thursday while I get the house cleaned, and the beans and I will hang in Fred with my mom until we leave on Saturday.
I talked to Bennett last night, he is staying in our house there, on an air mattress...and I think he is getting so excited. He said "Sam, it's so amazing here. It's like 77 degrees, I'm driving around with the windows down and it smells unreal. It smells like everything is ALIVE here..."
You know, the cutest thing about Bennett wanting to move was that he told me he felt this would be really good for our family. He was like "You know, we're so close...but I don't think we've really even scratched the surface, and I think moving somewhere, with only each other to depend on will really help us get there..." So I try to remind myself of that. That that is his focus...and it's such a sweet and important one.
I got the most encouraging email from a friend of a friend yesterday, a girl who lives in Minne, with kids our age...and she was just so fun and kind and said she can't wait to get together...and she offered to help get us a babysitter list and said we should set up a play date and all this different, helpful stuff...and I felt like "This is going to be good. This is exactly what we're supposed to be doing right now." And not just because of that email, but because of many things that have fallen into place. I feel at peace with it all. I'm actually so at peace with it right now that I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop. Silly...but that is how I feel.
So tonight Nikki is coming over to hang out with the beans while I run some errands and then she and I will hang out when I get home...tomorrow night is my last "cultural outing" (we have been trying different cuisines with a group of friends from work for the last 3 years) at Chez Nous, then Thursday I have a last day happy hour...and then it's Friday and Bennett's gym is throwing a going away party for him, and then Saturday is our Final Hoorah party, and then I'm fancy free for a couple weeks. At least when it comes to work. Our friends have started giving us a hard time for all the going away events. I know- it's excessive...but who am I to say no to a party? Who am I to get in the way of a good time?
Hope you're having a great Tuesday.
Oh also, and P.S. you might be wondering why I haven't provided a 100 Days of Health check-in. It is my job on behalf of the founding partners and the board of directors to let you know (to whom it may concern) that in retrospect, it has become increasingly clear that starting a program as serious and important as 100 Days of Health during a time of excessive partying and celebration was not exactly the best, or most effective, approach. To this point, and for the purpose of being set up for success (rather than failure) the board has declared a moratorium on said 100 Days of Health efforts until July 1. Should you have any questions- you can pose them to the board in two weeks. Please and thank you.
6/17/13
Can I touch your boos?
I was curious to see how Davis and Holden responded to the beach. Holden was so easy and happy right away (surprise, surprise) and Davis kept asking me to "get the sand off"...I finally told him that it just wasn't going to happen and that he needed to enjoy being dirty. He got used to it and both the beans had so much fun. I will go ahead and say that I am the worst mother ever because I brought a camera with a dead battery- so I only have these three pictures...
And they're super fuzzy. Oops.
The boys had so much fun- Sawyer came a bit after this picture was taken- and the three of them started the trip by jumping like crazy on the beds. I thought this was a great idea...the other moms? Not so much...next we went to the beach and just enjoyed the overcast Friday evening. The boys built sand castles (mainly Bennett and Porter did the work, and Davis just worked on knocking them down) and the girls played in the sand and even stuck their little feet in the water.
Highlights from the trip include:
- Friday night dance party on the balcony
- Drinking Corona light on the beach
- Watching the joy on the little peoples' faces
- FUN DIP (Jeremy has the best beach food brand- he brought Fun Dip AND Combos)
Yesterday we got home, cleaned up a bit, cleaned out my car, and then I went to bed around 8:00. Really. I had so many things I needed to do, but I could NOT pull myself out of bed.
This is my last week in the office- which feels both crazy- and not really real yet. We haven't booked a moving company yet and are supposed to have our stuff packed and moved out next Thursday- ZOINKS. Oh, and also, Bennett is in Minneapolis all week. I have dinners with a different group of friends every night this week- so I have no idea how it's all going to happen, but remember? I don't worry about things anymore. Life is short.
Little D has been saying and doing some really funny things lately...just to name a few:
- I said something like "hey Davis!" the other day, to which he responded (hand up) "wait. mom. big davis or little davis?"
- He also called his dad "Bennett" yesterday, out of the blue...
- Last night, in one of his many efforts to put off going to bed, he said he had to go potty and when he came back into his room, he pulled a clarisonic out of his underpants. I wish I could say this was MY Clarisonic...but it's actually my friend, Courtney's. Sorry Corky.
- The other night, he put his hand on my chest (my breast to be exact) and said "Mommy- what's this?" I thought quickly and said "It's my chest, Davis." He thought quickly and said "No mommy, what's this...and this?" (moving his hand from one boob to the other). I didn't know quite what to say so I said "Those are boobs. And they are girls' privates..." He then looked at me said "Can I touch your boos?" And now refers to them as such.
He is a hoot.
Also, I am basically a match maker. I had a company come give me an in-house estimate today for moving...and as I was talking to this nice young man, who is the son of the founder of the company, I thought "What a nice guy...who do I know that I could set him up with?" And I thought of my friend at work, Elizabeth. SO, while I turned him down on his moving estimate, I did ask him if he was single and interested in me setting him up. HA!
Happy Monday.
6/13/13
Visitors
And I know Katie and Nikki will come...and I hope/think we can get Carrie and Zach up for a visit and Kirsten too (on a long school weekend). I'm just going to try to spread these visitors out and also make a few trips home as well. I'm getting really excited now.
Yesterday was such a good day. I had those three phone interviews- the one that I thought was sort of MEH ended in 8 minutes...which is a good thing. It was not a fit and neither of us wanted to waste the others time. But the other two were SO encouraging. I had a first call with a smaller agency there- and the guy was so smart and incredibly helpful. I sort of felt like the first half of the conversation was your typical, formal conversation...and then about halfway, I really felt like he was being more transparent about his needs and goals and we really had a lot of similar thoughts. The other thing is, at the end of the conversation, he said "And do you guys know anyone here?" I said no and made a joke about it...and he said "Well maybe we could have you guys over for a BBQ."
WHAT? So nice. This guy is like 45 or so, sort of a big deal in advertising, and was just so kind and sincere. It made me feel so hopeful. I want to get a great job- and/but a big part of that is working with great (smart and kind) people.
Then I had a 2nd call with a shop I talked to last week- and it was incredible too. Lots of shared ideas/approaches, and the potential to sort of create my current position- there. WHAT? So both groups asked me to call them as soon as I get there- so I could go in and check them out.
So who knows- but honestly- my feeling is that things keep falling in place so easily and surprisingly- and every time it happens- I feel more encouraged that this is God's plan for us for right now.
Now we just have to find a mover that can get our stuff there in less than 10 days. What the heck do you do when you have kids in an empty house for 10 days- when you also are waiting on your cars. UGH. Sounds horrible to me.
Anyway...
Tomorrow morning we leave for the beach with the Ryans and the Hamblens. Who are the Hamblens? They are old friends of Zach and Carrie's (the Ryans) that lived in Austin for about a year. We literally hung out with them just a few times, but automatic connection. Meagan and I say we are blog BFFS...because we're always reading and commenting on each other's blogs. They have an adorable little boy named Sawyer, who is just between Davis and Porter in age...so it will be 6 adults, 3 little boys between 3 and 4, and 2 little gurls. I cannot wait!
And I have my phone interview with the other company tomorrow- the one that I am really interested in. We'll see. :)
6/12/13
A Few of My Favorite Things...
6/11/13
My Little Man.
6/10/13
FOOD.
I serve my guests Flavor-Ice popsicles. On a good day- when I have them. I was so inspired to really spend more time learning to make things while in Minneapolis. I mean- I bet making pickled tomatoes is not that difficult- and they were SO GOOD. There are so many things I plan to do when I get to Minneapolis. It reminds me of my senior year in high school.
I had just spent the summer working at Camp Balcones Springs with a bunch of college kids and little kids (of course)...and I felt like a really changed person. I felt very removed from "high school" and all the things that came along with it. I remember that I cried the entire drive home because I didn't want to go back to my life there and I knew I had the choice to either revert back to "high school" or probably be very lonely.
Probably a week after getting home, I was writing in my journal, and I decided that I would use my senior year as a growth year. I had this realization that high school was not going to matter anymore in just one short year and that I wanted to be more of the person I wanted to be- by the time I got to college. So I decided, I would spend my time doing things that were important to me, to my growth. This list, at the time, included: learning to play the guitar, reading great books, getting more focused on my faith, and working out. And I decided I wouldn't feel sad about being lonely- I would focus on the work I had cut out for me.
Anyway- that is sort of how I feel about my time in Minneapolis. Don't get me wrong- I'm going to get involved and try to make it as fun and social as possible- but if and when it's not...I have this whole other list of things I could work on and do...one of them being cooking and making things (not just food- but cool things) the other being working out...and the others including reading more, taking a class, and focusing on my faith.
Anyway- back to the point- the brunch was so fun. I left actually feeling pretty sad though. I know how hard it is to find a true "community" and man, I have an amazing community of girl (and guy) friends. And I was thinking yesterday about how talented my friends are. One started her own photography business last year and it's really thriving, another is writing a cookbook with a very well-known chef, another is an executive producer at another ad agency in town...I mean they are just so cool, and so good, and so smart. I could go on about it forever...
Anyway, here are some pictures of the brunch, and a few from Salt Lick the other night.
6/8/13
And...She's Married.
It felt like Nikki was so laid back (and maybe even a bit haphazard) about planning things- but it was so beautifully executed that clearly they put a lot of thought into every detail. The venue, Mercury Hall, is amazing...and the weather was gorgeous. It was a perfect backdrop for a beautiful and intimate affair. My favorite details were:
- how they involved a few friends in the vow exchange
- how sweet Nikki and Tony's actual vows to each other were
- the beautiful tables and the family style dinner (Paul Qui was the chef- so the food was AMAZING)
- the unique drinks they served
- and the dancing all night
We danced so long and so seriously...it was like a 5 hour workout. I knew when they played "Jesse's Girl" it was over for me. We danced and partied until 3:00 a.m. After we left the wedding, we headed to Barbarella which is an amazing crazy dance club/gay bar downtown. I realized while thinking about where to go last night that the only good dance clubs in this town anymore are of the homosexual nature...which doesn't matter at all to me (actually it's better because they are fewer male creepers and everyone is so friendly) but I think it's interesting. Do straight people not want to dance anymore? I DO.
Anyway, morning came too soon and I was sad that it was all over. It was amazing and I am so happy for Nikki! So glad I was a part of it. I seriously cannot even tell you how gorgeous she looked. I'll post pictures at a later date.
Holden missed the whole thing- sick again. Her fever broke Thursday, finally, so we thought we were in the clear...and then Friday afternoon Bennett called when he was getting ready to bring them up to Mercury Hall and basically said "I don't know what to do. She is inconsolable. I cannot even put her down..." And sure enough- she was that way all day today too. We took her to the doctor today and she has another ear infection- which- after tubes, is weird. So now we need to take her back to the ENT to see what's going on. Today she actually stayed on my lap for about 2 straight hours. It was pretty sweet when she wasn't crying. She started to feel a little better tonight- just after the ear numbing drops...so I am hopeful each day will be a bit better.
Davis was SO amazing Thursday, Friday and Saturday. He is really such a joy lately (which I have rarely been able to see for the last six months). Like I said, I think we might have turned a corner. He had so much fun dancing and he thought Nikki looked so beautiful. She walked out of the bridal room and he was watching her take pictures and he just shouted "I love you, Nikki." Really, in the last two weeks, I've felt like what I pictured being a mom would be like- at least when I was pregnant the first time and just trying to visualize it.
Basically, I always pictured having a little buddy that I would laugh and joke with- do sneaky fun stuff with- and that's where Davis and I are right now. It's really fun.
Okay- I'll share some pictures later- just wanted to write my thoughts down before I forget them. Tomorrow I'm going to a friend's surprise birthday brunch...and then we are going to pack pack pack.
6/5/13
Little Things
Anyway- recently- being the empowered business woman that she is, Carrie reached out to Camille to see if they might partner together on some photography on her blog...instead, after meeting Carrie, Camille suggested Carrie do a monthly piece...natch.
So without further adieu, I introduce: Little Things, created by Carrie Ryan, as seen on Camille Styles blog. And you might recognize the two small boys picking berries, that are often featured on my blog!
Here are some pictures I borrowed from the piece. Enjoy!
Little People.
Bennett and I are so excited and overwhelmed about all of the things we need to do in the next week or so, we're basically having family meetings every other night instead of weekly. But I'm bored of talking about that, so I think today I'll give you an update on my little people.
Miss Holden Eloise...
Size-wise, Holden is still tiny...but she has filled out a little bit due to her growing love of all foods. She is walking about 75% of the time but is not incredibly confident. In fact, at school, sometimes she protests and just sits down while her 7 little friends are walking along, holding a rope with rings. She cries and they have to encourage her to keep walking or carry her. She is afraid to fall...and when she does fall, even if it's a little plop on her toosh, she often tears up a bit.
But she is no withering violet. She is really giving Davis the business lately. She likes her space and she doesn't want him hugging and kissing her all the time- so she regularly gives him the stiff arm and starts to whine when he gets up in her space...which is ALL THE TIME.
She loves to read and be read to...in fact, lately if you don't read to her (very often the same book over and over 1000 times) she gets so frustrated and starts to grunt and whine and swing her arms around.
For the most part, she is still her incredibly sweet and content little self. She is so joyful.
She gets funny things lately and she loves it when I tell her "No, no, no!" She grins and does exactly what I am asking her not to do. She thinks it's just sooooo funny. She can say many words now- some recent ones include: apple, people, poo poo, car, baby, Davis (which sounds like Day-Di) and na for no.
She STILL goes to sleep at about 6:30 and sleeps until you wake her up around 8:30.
Meester Davis...
Still prefers to eat: chicken nuggets, pizza, waffles, moyer buyers (granola bars), fruit (veggie/fruit pouches), and any sort of cracker, pretzel or the like. When I say those are preferences, what I mean is: he will starve himself to a near death situation if you try to get him to try anything else. I almost passed out the other day when he asked Nikki what she was eating (red grapes) and then heard him say "I think I'll try one..." I had actually NEVER heard anything like that come out of his mouth before.
He is as active as ever. He is loving his new "slip er slide" and does it over and over though he still hasn't quite figured out how to get from running to sliding...so it's pretty funny to watch. He loves to wrestle, he loves to play football, he loves to do puzzles and build legos...his favorite color is green, with pink being a close second...and he LOVES to go to Porter's house, the YMC, Chik-fil-a, Honey's house, and Target.
He is the best little communicator lately. I'll say something, he'll pause, look at me and say "Umm, mom. What did you say?" He talks through things and he has lots of great (and sometimes embarassing) questions and comments. Examples:
- Daddy, why do you always eat all the good stuff?
- Mommy, when I grow up, I will be a good man...or mom.
- Why can't we touch nipples?
- Why do I have to stop eating the munchies when you are eating them?
And he is still so loving. Loves to cuddles, loves for me to lay with him before he goes to bed, tells me he loves me all the time (and all the little things about me- including my ears, my cheeks, my elbows...you know). And I feel like he's finally starting to do things because he knows they are the right or kind thing to do- not because I have to tell him 1,000 times. Not with everything...I mean, he's still three, but I am noticing a difference.
He loves Holden. He felt so special when she said his name the other day- and he loves making her laugh in the car. When we do something new- sometimes I'll offer to go with just him and he very often says "No, I want Holden to come..."
My little people are the best.
Have a good weekend. Not sure I'll have time to post until after the wedding. Still cannot believe Nikki is getting married in TWO days. INSANE.
Also, we officially leased our house. To a couple and their high school daughter. And she was just SWEET AS SUGAR to me, but a real pain in the neck to both realtors. Couldn't get the lease signed fast enough and she followed up about 100 times...so of course I made her wait. She better not be a pain in the ass all year. We'll see.
6/4/13
Get a Hobby.
subject: ATTENTION
I've been catching up on your blog and it appears to me that you need to find something to do in your spare time.
ha. my thoughts exactly. let me break it down for you...
work today and tomorrow.
wedding festivities thursday.
wedding friday.
post-wedding festivities saturday.
birthday brunch sunday.
work sunday to prep for client meetings monday.
client meetings monday and tuesday.
work wednesday and thursday.
beach friday through sunday.
i could go on and on. that is just the next week and a half. but it's all fun stuff, so i'm just going to enjoy it! i'm going to plow through the details- signed leases, walk throughs, financial paperwork, etc. and just smile and enjoy the last three weeks here. at least i will try- it's really hard to juggle work, life, weddings, events, interviews, etc...NO REST FOR THE WICKED!
speaking of interviews, i had a phone interview on friday with a pretty legit company in minneapolis on friday. it went well and i'm hopeful i'll get to proceed on to the next couple interviews...but it is pretty damn competitive, so we'll see. i know the right thing will line up.
here are a few pictures from this weekend- though none of the bachelorette. those will come later- they are on Honey's camera. Hope you're having a great week.
6/2/13
Riches to Rags
It's like clockwork, you know? I got home at 11:00 a.m. from a beautiful weekend and Davis and Holden (and Bennett) were in great shape. Bennett jumped on a plane at 3:00 today and around the same time, Holden's fever spiked like crazy.
So...I will have to miss work tomorrow (AGAIN) and figure out how to get my car to the shop to get new tires. The good news is that my mom volunteered to stick around and help, which I know is about the last thing she has time for the week her daughter is getting married...AND tomorrow is her birthday.
What a woman, that Honey.
Oh and I cannot wait to tell you about the bachelorette weekend- it was so so fun. We laughed and drank and made lingerie jokes in the private room at Olive & June until the valet guys came in and said "Umm, here are your keys. We're going home." We shut the place down. I hope the weekend was as special for Nikki as she is special to me.
More later...